How Couples Can Keep Their Love Alive

Everybody wants a happy ever after. Admit it even men dreams of growing old with the woman they choose to settle with. Keeping the love alive and the fire burning in every relationship are essential to make it last for a lifetime. But in order to make this happen, couples should work together hand in hand. They should never forget about what love really means and they should learn how to understand, respect, and forgive one another.

In connection with this, I am sharing with you this post I've read entitled 10 Habits of Happy Couples. This is perfect for every husband and wife who wants to improve their relationship.

Read on..

1. Go to bed at the same time

Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn't wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

• It would really be sweet if you and your partner can go to bed together and spend some time cuddling with each other before finally going to sleep. 

2. Cultivate common interests

After the passion settles down, it's common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don't minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. 

• As couples you should always have time bonding together and enjoying the things you love most to do as husband and wife. Spending quality time with each other can surely keep your love going. 

3. Walk hand in hand or side by side

Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it's more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

• It would be so sweet if you and your partner hold hands whenever possible like when you are strolling around the park, at the mall, or wherever you may go. It's also one way to make your partner feel secure. 

4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode

If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can't resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

• Knowing how to forgive and trust your partner is very important to make your relationship last for a lifetime. If you have any misunderstanding, it would be healthy for both of you if you can settle it before the night is over so you two can sleep peacefully. 

5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong

If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

• It would certainly help your relationship with your partner if you are both optimistic. If you find something you don't like with your partner, you can always tell him or her in a good way that he or she wouldn't get hurt.

6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work

Our skin has a memory of "good touch" (loved), "bad touch" (abused) and "no touch" (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the "good touch," which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

• It has proven that a kiss and/or a hug from your partner every morning before separating ways can make your day happy and stress free. In the same way, a kiss and/or a hug after a long day from work can end both your day contented. 

7. Say "I love you" and "Have a good day" every morning

This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

• Just like the previous item, saying the magic words "I Love You" to your partner as soon as you wake up, before leaving home, as soon as arriving home, or whenever possible like before putting down the phone or thru a text message can absolutely make them happy and peaceful all throughout the day. 

8. Say "Good night" every night, regardless of how you feel

This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.

• Starting your day right with a "Good Morning" and ending it with a "Good Night" along with a kiss and tight hug will let your partner know how much special they are to you.

9. Do a "weather" check during the day

Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you're more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

• Calling your partner or sending them a text message asking how they're doing is a good way to let them know that you think of him or her. But remember that it is not healthy if you will check on them every hour of the day. Give yourself some time to miss each other.

10. Be proud to be seen with your partner

Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact -- hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

• Showing your love and affection to your partner would mean a lot for them. Doing it even in front of other people is fine just don't over do your public display of affection so you won't be misinterpreted by some.

Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behavior that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behavior to become a habit. So select one of the behaviors in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit...and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don't despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.

Source: http://www.womansday.com/