To all husband out there, if you want your wife to stay in love with you and make your relationship work and last for a lifetime, there are certain things which you need to bear in mind.
In particular, I want to share with you this post I've read regarding the Things A Husband Should Never Say To His Wife. Read and understand each of them so you'll not find yourself in deep trouble with your partner.
1. "Are you expecting?" Honestly, it amazes me how many times this etiquette no no occurs. A slight weight gain or protrusion of the tummy area does not justify anyone to ask such a question. When a woman is expecting, it is her prerogative and privilege to announce the impending news...especially to her husband.
MY OPINION:
It simply means don't tell your wife she's fat! LOL! Or she's gaining weight that she doesn't look sexier than ever. In my case it's the other way around, my hubby complains that I'm definitely thin and that I should eat a lot so I can gain more weight so I won't look like a teenager. Oh well, no matter how much I eat and sleep, still I'm petite.
2. "You are just like your mother!" These words should only be spoken as a compliment, because if the intent is anything else, it could determine where he sleeps that night.
MY OPINION:
Husbands, be very careful in case you wanted to say these words to your wife. Make sure you'll explain to them exactly why you were able to tell that they're like their mother. Take note you should mean it as a commendation to them and not in a negative way that would hurt your partner's feelings.
3. "You look good, but you're no Cindy Crawford!" It is never appropriate to restrict praise or make it conditional, especially if he's no Robert Redford. Perhaps if he wanted Cindy Crawford, he should have married her in the first place.
MY OPINION:
Never ever compliment and at the same time compare your wife to other beautiful woman out there. They will surely feel hurt and hate you for that! What's the point of telling them they're indeed pretty and yet you make comparisons. Just simply admire their own beauty and uniqueness, period!
4. "Have you tried putting the spoons in upside down in the dishwasher?" A good husband should never give instruction for any job his wife does regularly. Even if his suggestion is good, it won't be appreciated. The same rule applies to women - except for backseat driving. The safety of her entire family is dependent upon it.
MY OPINION:
This is so true especially if your wife is the one doing almost all of the household chores. If your wife is the one who regularly wash the dishes after every meal, let her do it her way. She knows exactly what she's doing. If you have any suggestions, tell her in a nice way that she won't get offended.
5. "Are you really going to eat all that?" When a woman hears this comment, she instantaneously wants to eat twice as much. A man should ask himself, is that really his goal?
MY OPINION:
This is quite similar to the first item. Asking your wife if she's going to eat all the food available is like an insult for them to the point that they might not eat at all or choose to eat as much as if they won't care if they get fat.
6. "By the way Honey, I've invited the boss and his wife for dinner tonight." As a general rule, women don't like surprises unless it comes in a little velvet box or in the form of a weekend getaway to the coast. Making this announcement could roughly be compared to a woman saying to her husband, "By the way Honey, I invited my mother over to declutter your man cave."
MY OPINION:
Agree! Do not surprise your wife with visitors especially those that they don't really expect to come at your house. In case you wanted to invite your friends or any family member, inform your partner days before so she could prepare not only herself but also your living space.
7. "If I had known we were having broccoli for dinner tonight, I would have stayed at work." This comment only gives a woman more reason to serve broccoli. A good rule to follow is whatever is on the table when he gets home is exactly what he was hoping for.
MY OPINION:
It's okay if you will not eat every dish your wife prepares but never ever tell her that you would have stayed at work, just eat outside, or brought a food at home to eat. Even if you don't like what she serves, at least give it a try and say a simple and more importantly positive compliment so they would somehow feel appreciated for their effort.
8. "My (fill in the blank - ex-girlfriend, ex-wife, mother) makes the best blueberry pie ever!" Those days are over dear, move on. I can assure you, she doesn't want to hear about it.
MY OPINION:
No wife would want to hear any comparison from their husband especially if they're being compared to the ex-partner, sister, mother-in-law, or any woman out there. Do not ever make comparison period!
9. "Don't you want to comb your hair before we leave?" Or, "Is that really what you're going to wear tonight?" Men should know that on most days, their multi-tasking wives get more accomplished by noon than he likely gets done all day. The last thing a woman wants is her better half needlessly draining her confidence. One friend has taken to reminding her husband, "A lesser woman could not have done as much."
MY OPINION:
Your wife definitely needs enough time to prepare herself and every thing else before you go somewhere else. If you do not like the way they look including the dress she's wearing, you can always tell her in a good way and not to the point of hurting their feelings. You as the husband should always be the one to boost their confidence most especially in front of others.
10. "Yes, that dress makes you look fat." No, no, no gentlemen. She never looks fat. Ever. There are more diplomatic and peace preserving ways to address the situation, such as, "In my opinion, the navy blue skirt is more slimming." Or, "You always look wonderful to me."
MY OPINION:
Like what I said in item no. 1 it's a general rule not to tell your wife that they're fat. It's the least thing they would want to her from their husband. A good compliment should be given most of the time to make her happy and not to let her feel less beautiful.
"The most important guideline in a marriage is to remember that kindness is critical. This is our forever partner, the love of our life, our best friend! We should never do or say anything that might hurt their feelings, embarrass them or cause them to pull away from us.
Fortunately, men can learn to navigate the tenuous paths of marital bliss. By avoiding these ten serious blunders, he will have the confidence to bypass an assortment of potential setbacks and become the husband she always wanted."
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